In the end, Im grateful to her for everything she was to me, and Im able to feel glad that she is free now. 3. I felt I was able to reach her in that moment. We hosted a memorial service at Western Hills Church of Christ in Austin, Texas. Sure, several people offered to help here and there, helping my parents move houses, or more recently, going with me to visit my mother. When my grandmother died two weeks ago, I was asked to share a short eulogy at the memorial service. She prayed relentlessly for her kids and grandkids and for the people of Murdo. But the truth is that my grandmother had been gone for more than a decade when she took her last breath. We were all saddened by her departure, yet relieved that she would not suffer. I just read the eulogy. He was able to swallow (pureed foods) again and was talking to all of us and even telling jokes. When I was first asked to share a few words in honor of my grandmother, I was tempted to wind back the clock about ten years. Search for: Recent Posts. The good memories, the meaningful memories that we have of Pat are of her younger, more vivacious years. Love for Christ. By Bob Thune
Do you know youre precious? she would ask during every outing together. Read more about Lauren. She looked after me a lot when I was young and my mother was establishing her career; I have very fond memories of the time I spent with her. : A Preschoolers Guide to Losing A Loved One. Just five weeks after my mothers passing, my 90-year-old grandfather fell and broke one of the vertebrae in his neck. My mother certainly got an A ++ in this. (When I saw her again, she was unconscious in the days before her passing.) The unexpected health risks of skim milk. She finally found peace after Alzheimers disease. When words fail, music comes through and pulls us all in. Your father touched my soul like no one ever has. Two years ago, Harold and Pat came to my church for the first time ever. From what you said, shes more like my grand ma. Because there were so many of us, we grew up in a noisy family. I was desperate to be wild in grief and my coke-snorting bestie was my ticket to fun. [], [] That night, a great peace washed over me. She fixed my hair with gentle hands. I can see so much of your mom and dad in you and that is superb. Out of loyalty to our relationship and because it was the right thing to do, I spent time with my grandmother whenever I came to Chicago to see my parents. I cant remember a single time I was around her when she wasnt encouraging, exhorting, or urging me and others toward faith and obedience to Christ. I put everything I could into the eulogy and really hoped to convey a sense of her life and character. Enter your email address to follow this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email. Grandma was an expert seamstress and sewed clothing for her family. I didnt know I would say goodbye to my mother eight days after I wrote Keep Me In Your Heart: A Fathers Day Wish. Grandma never heard my dad preach a mediocre sermon; she never watched a ball game in which her kids or grandkids werent the most valuable player; and she never understood why John didnt get 100% of the vote in every election. Did I really need to get attached and then lose my stepmom to colon [], [] Before I had babies, the last diaper I changed was my mothers. m_gallery_pagetype = "embed"; This column is committed to brain health, prevention of dementia and successful aging. I cant say for sure what her memory and consciousness were allowing her to experience, but Id like to think that we made one last connection before she left us. Ive been in a bit of a shocked state because I think I believed she was eternal, even though she was 94 and getting frailer each time I saw her. m_gallery_creation_date = "Tuesday, April 26, 2016, 3:51 PM"; (Contributed photo). She had a fall on the 20th of December that fractured her pelvis and back, and she was in hospital. As a beneficiary of that love and of Grandmas legacy, I am grateful. Cheerfulness. All rights reserved. Keep being Mommy. I slept well that night for the firsttimesince the hospice nurse had told us the end was near. Maybe some short stories. So I go after dementia the way it went after my mother -- relentlessly, clinically, unrepentantly. The loss of my Grandad a few years ago hit me harder that I expected, I wasnt able to read anything at the funeral. It's something I wasn't able to do for my mother. After grandpa died, Grandma began to travel and explore the world. From Lillooet she moved with her family to Kamloops, where she met my grandfather, and they married in 1944. With the outbreak of war with Japan, like others in the Japanese Canadian community she was sent with her father, her mother and her younger brother Sid, to a prison camp for the duration of the war. It was during that drive that I filled pages with notes about my childhood memories of her. Published on January 13, 2015, How Shane Hawkins and the Foo Fighters United Us in Grief, By Lori Tucker-Sullivan in Features, My Loss. For years. And there are three things that stand out to me as part of her enduring legacy. Heres what I mean: dementia reveals the true essence of a person. I wanted to know what it was to lose her husband in such a shocking, dramatic way and how she was able to rebuild her life. Life in internment camp was very hard; the sense of being shamed, set apart and treated unfairly was, I think, almost worse. I didnt hear my grandmother say shoganai. She didnt speak of the internment at all to me. As a young woman, she came to Vancouver, to attend sewing school. And in her later years, when the more complex aspects of her personality had faded, her joyful faith in Jesus remained. I dont know how much time we have left with my grandfather before he is reunited with my mom. Pride. She was delicate and wild., Memorial Service Packet Dixie StuckyMemorial Service Packet Insert Page Dixie StuckyKnesek Funeral Home Obituary and Guestbook. Then the war. I will always remember how you prompted me to seek out help when I was grieving, and I would be happy to be there for you too, if that is what you need (now or in the future). She had developed a tendency to remember and talk in loops of repeating information, but we were kind of on the same track. Wants and Needs: Teach Your Children the Difference with These Tips, No Matter Your Game, Sports Bring Families Together During Hard Times. He told me later that he told her we would all be okay. Thank you. She entered hospice care when I was pregnant with my first daughter and passed away, almost two years later, when I was pregnant with my second daughter. And I can attest that one of the last memories my mother shared with me consisted of her as a child, sledding down a hill, excited to reach her mothers outstretched arms at the bottom. There was no high school in Deep Bay, so Grandma finished school at 13 and began to help her family on the fishing boat, in the cannery, and also working berry picking and farming. Your eulogy was so heartwarming and beautiful. |
I was looking for details I could use for the eulogy Id need to deliver two days later, but I also wanted to melt the feelings about her Id frozen since shed started becoming a different person. My grandmother was shaped by her historical context. Life is too short to dwell on the painful memories but long enough to rebuild as your grandmother did. I feel like I lost my mom a long time ago, but there was no funeral, no obituary, no headstone, no closure. Tras la muerte de mi mam, encontr un nuevo significado en mi color favorito de siempre. Candid conversation about grief. Your love for her, your tender descriptions of her, your understanding and compassion for her wartime experiences and your tribute to her character are so beautifully written. Her usual way of greeting me these past few years has been to look at Harold and say, Well, look at this handsome young man is he one of us? That morning after church, Grandma looked at me and said, You keep preaching the word, young man. Im still not sure if she knew who I was but she knew who Jesus was, and she recognized his Word when she heard it. Her joyful exuberance turned out to be [], [] Ireally need to watch my mom suffer with early onset Alzheimers disease for the bulk of my twenties? I didnt really take time to grieve, and, to be honest, I thought I had already finished [], [] in Rockport on the Texas coast. But Im fairly sure Grandma Pat would disagree. Get to Chicago right away, they told me. We honored my mother, Dixie Benton Stucky (1953-2013), on Saturday, June 29, 2013.We hosted a memorial service at Western Hills Church of Christ in Austin, Texas. In Grandmas case, this was Lillooet. [NBC News], We Cant Comprehend This Much Sorrow [NY Times], The Familial Language of Black Grief [The Atlantic]. 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Her family was drastically set back by the confiscation of all their property. One of which was Margaret Mavis Harpley, 85, who had been suffering with Alzheimers Disease for a number of years. After my mom died, I discovered a world of new meaning in my favorite color. He took a turn for the worse last Monday, after falling the previous Friday, and was struggling to breath and swallow and in a state of delirium and agitation for several days. Ill try to post on those later. And as you read those words, maybe they'll mean just a little more to you. For some people, we're here to celebrate "Lou." For others, "Mom." I sat on her bed and held her hand. The grieving process is a long one, and never truly over, but hope your memories are helping to ease the sadness. 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When Id ask about my grandfather, Norman, who died in his late 50s in a plane crash on his way to Japan, shed remind me that I was named after him. Find NJ.com on Facebook. But know Im thinking of you and thanks so much for sharing. Lauren Flake is a wife, girl mom, native Austinite, seventh generation Texan, artist, author, and Alzheimer's daughter. They worked hard and their daughters had good educations. Your email address will not be published. I couldnt tell anyone not at Christmas. Keep living your life. I thought Id share it here for those friends whom I havent managed to tell. After all, she and her community had been unfairly victimized for nothing more than their ethnicity. I know how concerned people are about these matters because I hear from them every week. You should write more about her. In many ways the community was destroyed; we dispersed to all parts of Canada, many reluctant to return to the coast where they felt betrayed by their neighbours. My mother, who had a way with words, might have said we were multivocal. Thus, I thought her eulogy should be multivocal as well, and I asked each sibling to help me by sharing a favorite memory or two that paid tribute to some of her values e.g., sacrifice, dedication, humility and a sense of humor. Eulogy for Ellen, My Mother. To this day, coconut syrup and guava juice means Waikiki Breakfast with Grandma. It was as if my mother had saidbefore I left, Im going home. Required fields are marked *. As she put it: she was an optimist, while Harold was more of a realist.. When I was 9 our family took a trip to Hawaii and Grandma came along. My 83-year-old mother has dementia. [], [] was pregnant with my second daughter and chasing after a toddler when my mom died. She doesnt know us, theyd say. Beauty wordings and a few random tangents! Again, a sensory memory of security became the most indelible legacy of a loving parent. She was an expert in Japanese flower arranging and traveled with a bolt cutter and hatchet which she used to glean good specimens for her arrangements. After being at the nursing home, watching and waiting, that Tuesday through Thursday, I stayed home all day Friday. The last time I saw my grandmother was in April 2013, about nine months before she died. As Grandma lost her memory these last few years, she often mistook my daughter Mio for me; it took her a while sometimes to connect the adult I am now with the child she used to take care of. So beautiful Lea. She taught her daughters to dress nicely and I think I can attribute some of my dress sense to my put-together grandmother. She cultivated refinement in her surroundings and her person. I always wondered what made him such a great man and reading your eulogy gives me insight into his upbringing. With me, she was always kind and patient. Beautiful. I write my mother's eulogy every single week. She showed me much love and kindness. Who Grandma was in her final years is who she really was. We visited her in hospital and I showed her pictures of my familys trip there in October and she reminisced about her last trip. We are hoping to move him into a nursing home closer to my grandmother early next week. What a beautiful piece of writing and a wonderful tribute to an obviously amazing person. The Riparian Times is a boutique publication with musings about life, travel, fashion and art. I wish we had taken a picture of the three of us that day. Perhaps the only silver lining was that the diseases slow progression gave my five siblings and me time to process her death, reflect on her life, and arrange an appropriate memorial service. I hope we always remember her strength and fortitude, her love of beauty and her keen aesthetic sense, her kindness and love for her family. I believe that if the information is readily available, and consistently reinforced, it's possible to get through to people and to change behavior. When you ask Americans over the age of 60 what health threat they fear the most, overwhelmingly they say Alzheimer's. Before my grandma died, Id get a hardened, stoic sensation when Id think about her. A lovely heartfelt story, that just goes to show how everyones life is fascinating. Grandpa would say: Grandma, no singing at the table. And then it would happen again. I think that it would have been easy to sink into depression after the internment, or to be consumed with resentment and bitterness. We are so happy with his improvement, despite his spinal injury. Like so many previous visits, I wanted so desperately to know what you were saying, thinking, seeing. She showed me patience. The disease made the last few years especially painful, but she lived to age 85 and led a full life. Grandma was pretty frail by then and I wasnt sure she even knew who I was. Beginners welcome. Well, she lived 94 years so you know Grandma didnt waste rice. This Grandsons Eulogy for His Grandmother Will Touch Your Heart and Make You Long for Yours. Clara Sent from my iPhone. They did manage to avoid the holding pens of the Exhibition grounds where so many were forced to live in horse stalls; on arrival they lost themselves in the crowds and fled to Steveston where they took refuge with their friends the Arakis before the inevitable removal by train to the interior. I took them to see her anyway. She knew my face and my name, and she knew that we had always been close, but I suspected that my grandmother no longer remembered what made us close like the many Saturday night sleepovers from my childhood, when wed go to one of her few pre-approved restaurants. Is she dead? I asked, in disbelief, but I knew the answer. Growing up as a kid with that kind of a grandmother had a way of bestowing confidence, self-worth, and a sense of rootedness. But this is my news, and my eulogy for my Grandma. But then, in January, my parents called with news that she had contracted pneumonia. !function(d,s,id){var js,fjs=d.getElementsByTagName(s)[0],p=/^http:/.test(d.location)? Later as the dementia set in, there were certain moments from her life shed tell repeatedly like the time she got fired from her job for wearing a Roosevelt pin, and the time she walked into a synagogue at the age of 15 and asked to receive an education there even though her family didnt have a membership. Thank you. We will cherish each sweet moment together. By Cynthia Rodriguez in My Loss, Personal Essays. She couldnt read, couldnt even enjoy a TV show because her short-term memory didnt allow her to retain a plot line. I Met My Fianc in a Modern Loss Support Group, By Shelby Forsythia in My Loss, Personal Essays. And then I wrote her eulogy. There are no lessons about 'The Art of Mothering' we can only do our best and hope that we do it well. In 1915, her mother came to Canada as a picture bride. One of her lungs had failed and she was no longer conscious. But then I realized that winding back the clock would be exactly the wrong thing to do on a day like this. The next day, Saturday, June 22, 2013, I walked into her room with my dad. Grandmas love for the Lord Jesus was never personal or private, as many in our modern liberal culture would like to keep it. I finally found peace after Alzheimers disease. Dementia stole my grandmother long ago, leaving me to mourn her all over again when she died years later. Ive edited it a bit because I wrote it to read out: My grandmother, Susan Sugiyama, was a woman I would like to honor today with my memories of her. That morning, however, my grandfather regained full consciousness. But the truth is that my grandmother had been gone for more than a decade when she took her last breath. Filed Under: death, growing up, memories Tagged With: Aging, Alzheimer's, life lessons. [], [] After awaiting your passing and the end of your suffering for so long, I had no idea I would miss visiting you so much, even though you couldnt respond to me. Now He's Grieving Alongside Millions. [], [] This Sunday will bemy second Mothers Day since my mother died. A beauty blog full of makeup, reviews & more, Experiencing Toronto through the eyes of a surburbanite. Until finally, it is over. April 12, 2017 by Vincent O'Keefe Leave a Comment, The authors mother lived a full life before dying of Alzheimers at age 85, and writing her eulogy helped him better understand it. I've got some good topics coming up. 1. It was vibrant and living and worshipful. After some debate, my family elected me to compose and deliver the eulogy. But people dont quite know how to mourn someone whos still technically alive. As everyone took stock of our familys past, I learned a surprising lesson: Memories borne through touch, taste, sound travel well. I am the oldest of Harold and Pat Thunes 13 grandchildren, and it is a privilege for me to represent them today by offering a few reflections on Pats life. And many of us here today are the fruit of those prayers. My grandmother spent one winter living on potatoes, taking shelter in a tent. March 22, 2012December 11, 2012. [], [] One year ago, onthe day before Mothers Day, my mother and I looked into each others eyes for the very last time. I hated watching her unconscious, struggling to breathe and seeing her body succumb a little more each day to dehydration. I will continue to write this column every week, because it's important to put this information in front of people, and to keep it in front of them. Music played an important role in my journey through my mothers illness. She traveled Europe, South East Asia and Japan, and made many trips to the U.S. also. Grandma was born in 1919, in Steveston. One year at a family event, my siblings and I started reminiscing about this practice. They stayed in business until 1973, when Grandpas health forced his retirement. Taylor Hawkins' son poured everything into each slam of the sticks. It seems almost everyone I talk to has lost a parent or grandparent to Alzheimer's, or is currently dealing with it in their extended family. These memories of our time together I hope she retained. And in her later years, when the more complex aspects of her personality had faded, her joyful faith in Jesus remained. Seattle & Leeds. Saying goodbye to my mother. In her mind, Thunes were great at everything and everybody ought to acknowledge it. I was reading Anne of Green Gables for the first time, and Grandma allowed me to chatter to her nonstop about this landmark book which she hadnt read. Shed probably forgotten how shed give me a manicure and wed go through old photo albums or watch Saturday Night Live. And didnt seem to remember our countless lunches at Neiman Marcus, where shed insist I use every last bit of strawberry butter for the popovers while also lecturing me not to pick out such dainty jewelry. Your email address will not be published. It strips away the layers of etiquette and social pretense that most of us have learned to operate with. Jet Diver Vs Dipsy Diver, In the last few years of Grandma Paulines life, my older two kids, around 6 and 8 at the time, were confused about why we had to make time to see her. A friend of my mothers for 40 years, Stuart Platt, delivered my mothers eulogy at her funeral and also spoke at her graveside service. Its difficult today to fully comprehend the pain of this experience, and how it affected our community. I have tears in my eyes, though I never met her. I just lost her 1st of january 2016. Most of the other stories fell away to the point where I couldnt remember them either. But I didnt ask, and she couldnt really answer anyway. It has been a difficult summer for my grandparents. what do restaurateurs do when they're not working? Such a nice eulogy to a lovely grandmother. And so on this day, as we honor Pat Thunes life and legacy, I find myself thankful for and challenged by her cheerful optimism, her sanctified pride, and her genuine love for Christ. (You take the good, you take the bad.) 2. The five days leading up to my mothers death were physically and emotionally trying. He remarked at her graveside that how we live now, going forward, is part of her legacy. Eulogy for a Grandmother I'm not sure how you begin to talk about a life that spanned nearly a centurya woman whose time included half a dozen wars, The Great Depression, and 17 different presidents. But you never know what small, barely noticeable gestures and habits might become your most visible, defining characteristics in the eyes of your children someday. By Tullan Holmqvist in My Loss, Personal Essays. She's her old self again, happy and vibrant and sharp as a whip. The reason is that my mothers mother, my Grandma Sugiyama, passed away on Christmas Eve. Then we held a graveside service later that day at Sealy Cemetery in Sealy, Texas. I still dream about her often. What a life she had and what a blessing she was to you and you to her. If you ask my four kids about their memory of Grandma, theyll likely talk about Thanksgiving 2 years ago. She had been a resident at our home on Westbourne Road since 2015. I know what I've found out so far has made a huge difference in my own life. Because while the most meaningful memories of Grandma are those from days long past, the most accurate memories the ones that most clearly reveal her true character are the most recent ones. Queer cripple with a PhD. I was so lucky to have her for so long. My kids found this hilarious; Grandma couldnt remember to stop singing. But I know now. She grew up in Deep Bay, on Vancouver Island, where her father was a fisherman, ranging as far as the Alaskan Panhandle on his small boat. Share on Pinterest. By Nina Badzin When I tell people that Grandma Pauline died last year at the age 96, the response is almost always some permutation of "You were blessed to have her for so long." That is true in the technical sense. She stopped going to her film class; she quit her book club; she lost interest in seeing friends. You Are Only as Good as the People You Surround Yourself With, By Jamie Kolnick in My Loss, Personal Essays. But to me, that was a great picture of who Grandma actually was. I hope I can be kinda like her when I grow up. Now go home and take care of your babies. We held the funeral yesterday and I gave the eulogy.
Two years ago, Harold and Pat came to my church for the first time ever. Mothers Day is a difficult time for my grandma and myself, since losing my mom to early onset Alzheimers disease four years ago. I was the eldest, born at least 7 years before the next grandchild, so I commanded her attention, plus she was a fairly young grandmother with lots of energy for a young child. But of course, this isn't about history. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); On March 29, 2022, I was invited by Senator John Thune to be the guest chaplain for the U.S. Senate,, In the past week, its suddenly become commonly accepted wisdom that congregational singing is, Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window), Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window), Click to email a link to a friend (Opens in new window), Protect Your Kids: How to Install an Internet Filter, Healthcare: Why Both Parties Are Missing the Point, A Historic Day: What Brexit Tells Us About Culture. I am so sorry for your loss but what a moving memorial for her life. You Might Have the Better Claim But I Have the Bigger Army. I probably wanted to throttle you and I was taking it out on your heads! We all laughed hard, then noted how long it took for each of us to realize you dont have to shake your head violently to wash your hair. This hits me close to home as my own grandmother recently passed away after suffering with dementia for a decade or so. Thank you for your kind thoughts, I appreciate them. We can reduce our risk to a far greater degree than most Americans realize or act upon. You were unusually alert. I was devastated, but also relieved for the permission to mourn what I had lost so many years earlier. I was lucky enough to be the only grandchild with whom she had a close relationship. I want them to know I had a Grandma Pauline, who filled me with enough love to pass on a gift like that to all of them. She took me to church with her, to the Japanese United Church on Victoria Drive, where I met other children with similar backgrounds, and ate homemade udon noodles at the church bazaars. It was about the kind of person you were and the difference you made in the lives of others. Grandmas faith was never religious, dutiful, or pious. The other 80 percent of preventing Alzheimer's is well within our control, based on how well we eat, how often we exercise, how much stimulation we give our mind and how socially active and spiritually replenished we keep ourselves. Very late in her illness, when she had lost much of her mobility and was about to go into nursing care, she was still having her home health aide drive her to the houses of shut-ins to deliver them communion. He died in 1977 of a respiratory disease, shortly after the birth of my sister Erin. When I tell people that Grandma Pauline died last year at the age 96, the response is almost always some permutation of You were blessed to have her for so long. That is true in the technical sense. I was expecting to choose hospice care for my grandfather when we met with the hospital staff last Thursday. : A Preschoolers Guide to Losing a Loved One, Keep Me In Your Heart: A Fathers Day Wish, My mother found peace after Alzheimers disease, Slow Motion: The Alzheimers Grieving Process, Memorial Service Packet Insert Page Dixie Stucky, Knesek Funeral Home Obituary and Guestbook. That tells me the depths of her distress about her experience. That is how we will always remember her. Tony Dearing may be reached at tdearing@njadvancemedia.com. We had a very different Christmas this year and I havent been able to post anything, despite having read many books. Her battle was over. Because I didn't know. But as long as Mom could still lift a hand, she would lift it in kindness to someone else.". Required fields are marked *. A few days later, her daughters were with her when she passed; I hope she felt their presence, their love and loyalty to her. 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